Sylvia and I have been together for sixteen months now. We considered ourselves married, even though we can’t legally marry. I have found that I am sharing that I have her in my life with more and more people. Even at Ethan’s school the other day, when he had had a bad day and I had to talk to the principal, I mentioned that my partner and I work very hard to make sure he has a good morning before school. Once I said it, I realized I had outed myself, but I also realized how the principal just didn’t even react. It was no big deal for her.
How do you describe that special person in your life? I usually call Sylvia my partner. She is just not a girlfriend, because to me that implies we are not committed to each other. I think some people may not like me calling her my wife, but I do consider her that. In fact, Sylvia got me a very nice Valentine’s Day Card and the message on the inside used the word wife. I was very excited. We both have danced around that word before, but never really used it to describe each other. I had thought of getting her a card with “wife” on it, but decided not to. I wasn’t sure if she would like it or not. Now I know!!
So tell me, what word do you use and does it really matter. Maybe not!