Way back in January of this year I wrote about the Butch vs. Femme test and posted a link to it. Since then I have met many more lesbians and have definitely seen a little bit of everything.
Here is a little bit of what I wrote on that date….just so you don’t have to go back and find it again.
Different types of Lesbians
I am a Soft Androgyne and my partner is a Androgyne. Of course, this is not a scientific test and no one drew blood to see what type of lesbian I was. However a lot of the description fit and I am sure I have charactaristics of the two other groups around soft androgyne….andrognyne and soft femme.
This is a chart that the site posted stating: “This is based on the 8000 responses in our first series of tests.”
It does give a description of what the lesbian type the test puts you at and the two around it. I got these definitions from the test:
Classic Femme–You are the “modern woman” but still a woman in thinking. It would not occur to you to take on a “man’s job” but you can do it if forced to. You like to work, but prefer secretarial/support positions, teaching, and health care provision rather than management or technical. Your house is basically neat and clean, but a little disorder doesn’t drive you up a wall. You try to design it attractively but don’t go to extremes. You are ambivalent about wearing a dress, and usually do for work, church, and social occasions, but wear pants or shorts around the house. You do usually wear makeup and keep your hair in an easily maintained but feminine style, often long. You like children and pets, cats in particular, and do make an attempt at gardening every so often but aren’t very good at it. You like art in an absent minded way – you enjoy the aesthetics but don’t often buy it for the home. You enjoy movies, particularly human drama and cartoons.For a partner, you prefer a softer butch along the line of the Gentle or Feminist Butch. For friends, you float with Strong Femmes, Androgynes, as well as some Gentle Butches. Extreme Femmes annoy you and Extreme Butches scare you.
Lipstick Lesbian–You are the wild side of the traditional feminine image. While you painstakingly make your appearance femme in public, it is not uncommon for you to relax and strip off that makeup at home – as long as you are alone or only with a good friend. If your spouse is around, you keep on the mask of femme. You have a streak of the exhibitionist in you with a tendency to wear revealing sexy clothing, or at least as far as you feel you can get away with and not look distasteful. You are young at heart and like to dance and be the belle of the ball rather than the hostess. You’re a good, creative parent, if a bit unconventional. The PTA doesn’t quite know what to make of you. On the surface you are very traditional, but as you speak people learn you have a few more radical ideas, and at night, you are a wholly different creature and your sensuality emerges. You enjoy magic and mystery. You frequent fortune tellers and seers. You aren’t sure if you believe them, but deep inside you do. Your relationships are sometimes rocky due to your energy and playfulness, but in the end you do defer to your spouse – though maybe after a rowdy fight. If you MUST, you do the occasional car repair or change a light bulb, but whenever possible you refer this to your wide circle of more butch friends. You are open to partners of all classes of butch, as well as Androgynes. You think Extreme Femmes are dowdy and dull, but have large group of more butch femmes as friends.
Classic Femme–You are the “modern woman” but still a woman in thinking. It would not occur to you to take on a “man’s job” but you can do it if forced to. You like to work, but prefer secretarial/support positions, teaching, and health care provision rather than management or technical. Your house is basically neat and clean, but a little disorder doesn’t drive you up a wall. You try to design it attractively but don’t go to extremes. You are ambivalent about wearing a dress, and usually do for work, church, and social occasions, but wear pants or shorts around the house. You do usually wear makeup and keep your hair in an easily maintained but feminine style, often long. You like children and pets, cats in particular, and do make an attempt at gardening every so often but aren’t very good at it. You like art in an absent minded way – you enjoy the aesthetics but don’t often buy it for the home. You enjoy movies, particularly human drama and cartoons. For a partner, you prefer a softer butch along the line of the Gentle or Feminist Butch. For friends, you float with Strong Femmes, Androgynes, as well as some Gentle Butches. Extreme Femmes annoy you and Extreme Butches scare you.
Practical Femme–You are more mentally femme than physically. You love to gussy up for the occasional special event but it wears you out to maintain that image round the clock. Your nails are short but neat, your hair short and easy to care for, and you wear minimal makeup. You usually dress in more feminine styles of pants or longer, flowy skirts, often without hose. But you have no doubt in your heart that you are femme. You take the direct approach to problems, often flying in head first without looking – this at times gets you in a flustering situation, but you are adept at digging yourself out of it. You like a moderately assertive career in lower management or self-employment. You really don’t like having a boss, but don’t want the onus of being the top boss. You’re a decent but not fancy cook, keep a neat but not elaborate house, and prefer efficiency to style, comfort to being “trendy.” In relationships you gravitate toward nearly every type, though Extreme Femmes strike you as a bit silly, Androgynes as indecisive and Extreme Butches as too posing. And what you don’t date, you welcome as friends, though you are very selective in your friendships and tend to have a small, well chosen circle of associates.
Strong Femme–You identify as female rather than femme, or as a male with an open mind to female issues. Your raising and socialization, however, has implanted enough of traditional femme roles and obligations, though, that you don’t quite make it to the bridge category of Androgyne which lies between femme and butch. You are practical in child raising but have no qualms about calling a baby sitter when you’ve had enough for the day. You are a good co-provider in a balanced partnership but resent carrying the full financial weight. You expect your partner to help you with your home and while you prefer order to chaos, won’t do their share for them. You are independent and proudly female, and don’t really mind living alone, though you’d prefer not to. You sleep with a small light on, and usually in the nude. You insist on good communication in your relationships. You are most comfortable with Androgynes and Gentle or Feminist Butches as partners, rarely dating other femmes, though admittedly physically you find them attractive. The butch “mystique” or the balance in an Androgyne attracts you more. You get along well with most types, though Extreme Femmes you find a bit overdone and aren’t entirely comfortable with Extreme Butches.
Soft Androgyne–For most of your life and social interaction, you don’t really see yourself as either butch or femme, but if pressed into a corner, you react more femme than butch. You prefer to seek aid rather than solve your problems on your own, and prefer to give aid rather than to encourage someone to stand on their own feet. You’re fairly well balanced over all, with the occasional weakness you haven’t quite yet conquered. Education is important to you, as you see knowledge as a key to independence and freedom, and you tend to have a higher educational level than your peers, either formally or by self-teaching. You read a lot, and a varied assortment of genres, enjoying cartoons as much as heavy psych drama. Biography, however, bores you. You like historical anecdotes but are not very good at memorizing dates, having a more general sense of time. Your home is a roof for you and not a showplace. Order is optional. You cook if you have to and are efficient at it but really don’t like to bother. You prefer to be fed. You like small dogs or big cats and the occasional hamster. You enjoy a fairly strong butch for a partner, along the lines of a Feminist or Classic Butch, and take on other Androgynes as friends. Family is not terribly important to you, and odds are good you came from a home where that was not the primary issue. You may have a good, but distant relation with your family, or may not be in touch at all, but it’s pretty certain you don’t live with them unless you have to, or in the same city.
Androgyne–You are the best of both worlds, and have absolutely no feeling of being either femme or butch. You see yourself as “you” and that’s all that matters. You dislike labels, surprised yourself by even taking this test, and are now laughing as you identify with this definition! You switch roles fluidly without thinking from nurturing/subordinate to providing/leading as the situation demands. You are often a jack or jill of all trades and master of a few, but not all. In clothing you go for the practical, not always bothering with the concept of neatness if that interferes with comfort or the time it takes to get dressed. Wrinkles don’t drive you crazy, though you do prefer to keep reasonably up to date in your style, without going to any extreme in it. You are shy in many ways, being intimidated by overt aggression as well as complete silence in a conversation. You tend to babble to fill silent space and clam up when confronted. Odds are good astrologically that you are a Libra, Pisces, Gemini, or Aquarius. You’re willing to try anything once as long as it does not pose a risk to you. You’re also good at doing just about any job, as long as you find a way to get trained for it. Physically, you’re average in fitness, not being overly concerned about being either “curvy” or “chisled”. If you are female and have some endowments, you wear a bra in public but not at home. For partners you are comfortable with all types, for you are a peacemaker and changeling at heart, changing yourself to fit the situation and avoid hostility. You aren’t a doormat, though, and do express your opinions.
Hard Androgyne–Most of the time you really don’t think of yourself as butch or femme, but if pressured, you tend to react aggressively – either to solve a problem or to defend yourself. You aren’t extremely masculine, yet are more drawn to your masculine side than your feminine side. Security is paramount to you, and the locks on your house and tendency to monogamy reflect that. You like money in the savings and a retirement plan in place. You are nervous and insecure without that. You are a good provider, often appearing in upper management positions, and are an excellent supervisor. Logic and mathematics fascinate you, and you have a very good memory. You are best remembering what you have seen in a video sense – sound and picture. About half of what you read sticks with you and what you hear goes in one ear and out the other. Pictures you remember very well. You like action adventure movies and books, though you don’t read a lot. You are heavily into technology, computers, and fun lil gadgets to play with. As a parent you are strict but not overbearing, and tend to be a bit over protective. You are a staunch defender of your legal rights. For partners you prefer a softer femme, along the lines of the Classic or Lipstick Femme. For friends you encompass everyone, though you find Extreme Butches a bit plastic and pure Androgynes indecisive.
Gentle Butch–You identify with being Butch and are proud of it, yet do not require yourself or your spouse to comply with gender roles in actions and relationships. You like to open doors for ladies but don’t press the issue, and aren’t offended if they prefer to open them themselves. In fact, you are at times tickled to have a door opened for you. You work hard most likely in a job requiring manual labor of some kind or an emergency rescue or health care position. You handle human trauma well and have a strong stomach for it, but have a soft side if it involves children or the frail elderly. You are physically fit and strong, even if disabled in some way you have compensated that loss in other strengths. You prefer a crisp, neat style bordering on preppy. Your house is generally neat though at times you let it really slide, you’re good at cleaning it up for the in-laws should they visit. Housework is not your forte, but you don’t object to helping out with that. For partners you prefer the more androgynous femmes as in the Strong Femme and Soft Androgyne, and for your buds you like other butches.
Feminist Butch–You are the social fighter, the radical for justice, the one who will get the job done. You tend to rush headlong into causes and immerse yourself chin deep. Quick to anger, equally quick to forgive, you are the fire and fight in the butch personality group. You like competitive jobs in sports, sales, and manufacturing. You tend to be good at them, but bore easily and need to keep challenged or you get lazy and eventually fired. You earn a good income and spend it freely. Children amuse you but are not your focus. You dote on ones you do have, but pass them off to their other parent easily when they begin to annoy you. You are impatient and restless, but passionate in your loves as well as your dislikes. You are the extremes of a strong woman and a confident man in one body. You disagree with social role categorization, and although you know you are butch you don’t advertise it.You have a quick wit and are often of high intelligence. You aren’t, however, as gifted in common sense. You are stubborn and proud, but can be convinced to change if the arguments is sound. For partners, you prefer Androgynes, their balance complementing your fire well. You love to flirt with femmes, and take on other butches as very close, dear buddies, occasionally romancing them.
Classic Butch–You are a calmer, gentler version of the Feminist Butch. You are concerned about social issues, but prefer to watch and wait, taking the occasional safe political action such as voting or sending an e-mail opinion. You like earning a good, safe income, often finding yourself in a paper-pushing type of job that you don’t necessarily enjoy. But you endure and do well, but not excelling. You like to treat a lady well, enjoying taking her out on a traditional date. Once married or committed though, you tend to withdraw into your own interests and take her companionship for granted. But you lean toward strong partners, who will let you know when that gets out of hand. You like an orderly house, but your sense of taste is a bit off the trend. For clothing you go for the traditional gender-expected garb, focusing on comfort and appropriateness to the occasion. For partners you prefer Strong Femmes or Practical Femmes. More extreme than that femmes intimidate you, and butches do not interest you. Your friends are usually other Classic or Boot Butches, with the token Androgyne or two. You prefer same-gender friends over opposite gender friends.
Boot Butch –You are proudly butch and dress the part, your costuming as important as what it covers. You prefer to wear black, have very short hair, never wear dresses, and prefer work shoes or boots. Your house is a mess. Sorry, but it’s the norm for this type and you don’t really fret over it, though you rarely invite over company due to a wincing insecurity about that. You are a fun date. You love to dance, go out, be busy, do things – it is hard for you to stand still. You earn a good income in an outdoor, technical position such as Fire Fighting or Cable Repair, and love to spoil your dates. You can easily be used, however, by more calculating women. Kids confuse you. They don’t bug you but you don’t know how to deal with them in any way other than to play a sport with them. Your relationships tend to be rocky, for you are a physical emoter and at a loss for words in communication. You take a lot for assumption only to find out you assumed wrong. Your best bet is a Classic Femme, for she follows a role that you are familiar with and know how to relate to. Lipstick and Extreme femmes often work out well for you too. Your buds are Extreme or Classic Butches.
Extreme Butch–You are an absolute role traditionalist. You very often dress in male clothing and prefer a male appearance. You follow the old etiquette of male roles in social interaction, and are offended if you open a door for a lady and she snubs it or fails to go through. You consider your gender to be Butch, not male or female. You are meticulous about your appearance, requiring high standards of yourself, never going out wrinkled. Your home is neat, very clean, and tastefully decorated. You may not have a pet, and if you do, it’s a large dog. You are a great cook – and enjoy cooking for a lady friend. You tend to be the aggressor in sexual relations, but have respect for a lady’s boundaries, though they may frustrate or baffle you. The feminine mystique fascinates you and draws you like a moth to flame. Women who are less than very feminine don’t interest you. Your partners are always Extreme Femmes with the rare venture with a Lipstick Femme. You have few buddies, and they are usually Androgynes, other butches being competition.
Again, this is not my writing(the above definitions) but what I took from the site and I want to give them credit. Once you complete the test, it gives the definitions to all of the types of lesbians they have listed.
Here is a link to the test: http://members.tripod.com/~womens_voices/BF100/BF100.html