I am still learning what it is to be a lesbian. Part of it is, who do I tell and how do I act with Sylvia when out in public. I have come out to my family and to my closest friends. I am never big on public displays of affection(PDA) but I do like a kiss when I haven’t seen her in all day!
The thing is that homosexuality is more acceptable in today’s society, but not by EVERYONE. There are still people out there who want to get in your face if you are different, and those are the people I worry about. I worry about who might find out at work and make things hard for me. Do “straight” people have these worries? I don’t think so. It reminds me of interracial dating back in the 1960s and 70s. It was hard for them to walk around and be out in public without concerns, but again even today they can be discriminated against.
When I made this switch, this wasn’t something I considered. I have had gay friends and never had an issue with anyone being gay. I guess I just always figured everyone else was like me. I have seen issues on the news and seen the stories of people being killed for being gay, but I guess I lived in a bubble and figured that would never happen to anyone I knew. Now that person is me and it is more personal.
I don’t like not sharing with people who I am, sharing the true me, but I guess we all have to be careful about what we share. I recently told someone at work about my “switching teams” and they were shocked but supportive. This person is still my friend and is happy that I am happy. However, she also said that I should be careful. Even though it is more accepted today to be gay, there can be those who won’t accept it. I think this person was just looking out for me out of concern. I just wish it didn’t have to be that way.